RU2336100C1 - Method of psychoemotional equilibrium recovery - Google Patents

Abstract

FIELD: medicine.

SUBSTANCE: the first cycle implies group art therapy and somatotherapy using vibrating massage. The second cycle includes correction of mutual social relations of patient by dram therapy consisting of three stages. Within the first stage physician transfers patient from every-day reality to drama. The second stage provides "rebirth" ritual. Within the third stage patient is transferred to every-day reality combined with development of positive coping strategy. If child is adopted by parents who have taken both cycles, during the third cycle parents joins child to take the second cycle of psychotherapy.

EFFECT: method provides effective psychoemotional equilibrium recovery.

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Description

The invention relates to medicine, namely to psychotherapy, and can be used to improve a person's health when changing social and family status, when building a family, difficulties with childbearing, when adopting a child, in the treatment of patients with various psychosomatic and psychoemotional disorders.

In recent decades, in Russia, as well as abroad, the adaptation of a person to new living conditions, to a change in social and family status has become one of the most important problems of civilization. Disruptions in individual adaptation affect biological, psychological, spiritual and social aspects, causing an increase in neuropsychic diseases, negatively affecting family relationships, fertility and fertility. Since adaptation is integration (restoration), in connection with this the need has increased for the creation of integrating deep techniques of psychotherapy (Lisitsyn, Yu.P., Psychological Medicine. M., 2004, pp. 8-49), as well as short-term methods that allow directing cognitive (cognitive) and behavioral efforts of an individual to actively solve problems.

Currently, a number of deep methods and techniques are known aimed at detecting deep subconscious material regarding archetypal and transpersonal structures. The most developed are the psychoanalytic theory and practice of C. Jung and the holotropic therapy of S. Grof.

In C. Jung's psychoanalytic theory and practice, methods of active imagination and the practice of working with dreams are considered. According to K. Jung, pathology most often has a deeper core - archetypal, endowed with instinctive energy at the somatic level. The methods emphasize the connection between image and instinct, instinct is designated as the psychic equivalent of an archetype. The methods can be applicable not only to neurosis, psychosomatic disorders, but can be useful to people seeking to direct their mental development in the right direction, and to facilitate the process of individuation. Among the important aspects of theory and practice is the identification of the relationship of man with the higher transcendental, understanding the structure of the soul. The method is quite effective, however, it has its limitations, since a prerequisite is the need to achieve a relatively high degree of ego stability, since the patient must learn to control and analyze emotional images and symbols. Therefore, it relates to methods of long-term therapy.

A known method of transpersonal psychology S. Grof "Holotropic breathing" (S. Grof. Outside the brain. M., 1992, S. 270-272). Its main goal is to activate unconscious contents and release the energy associated in emotional and psychosomatic symptoms, to translate static equilibrium into a stream of transforming experience. A distinctive feature of empirical therapy is the use of a model of the human psyche that includes, in addition to the biographical level of consciousness, the perinatal level. Perinatal experiences are a crossroads between individual and transpersonal psychology or between psychology and psychopathology on the one hand and religion on the other (S. Grof. Areas of the human unconscious. Publishing House of the Transpersonal Institute. M., 1994, pp. 118-119). Despite the rapid achievement of the results of clinical improvement, the technique presented has its own health limitations, since during use, side reactions can occur that are expressed at the psychoemotional and somatic levels (excessive stress, convulsions, etc.). Lack of awareness and integration of traumas, archetypal images leads to an overabundance of displaced subthreshold subconscious contents, which can lead to inflation and the awakening of latent psychosis.

Also known is the technique of reburfing - stress relief, especially generic, using a special free breathing system (Kozlov V. Free breathing. Guidelines. M., 1993). This technique is based on ancient breathing practices associated with embryonic symbolism. The purpose of returning to the embryonic state was to achieve health, immortality, the ability to become different (Lu Kuan Yu. Taoist Yoga. Alchemy and Immortality Oris. St. Petersburg, 1993, p. 254). This ancient spiritual practice contains many secrets that were passed from master to student, but were not known to the uninitiated. Therefore, the full use of the method in the practice of psychotherapy is not possible.

The disadvantages of holotropic therapy and ripping are the lack of a clear program and complexity, the lack of sequential steps. Based on the basic concepts of quantum mechanics, these methods do not take into account ancient and modern ideas about the multidimensionality of space - time. In addition, they do not address the problems of interpersonal and family relationships.

A known method of correcting the psychological state of Eric Berne in violation of social adaptation, highlighting the triune structure in the personality structure: parent, adult, child. In the process of therapy, an analysis is made of the life scenario of the life of the parents and ancestors of the patient, cultural heritage, the main masks, feelings, illusions. The main goal of the method is the formation of an adult ethical position through reconstruction and the creation of an autonomous personality. The ultimate goal is to create a dynamic balance between mental structures: Parent, Adult and Child. Transactional analysis is carried out both individually and in a group where various roles are played out and the patient can play the role of a child or parent by establishing a dialogue with group members (Eric Bern. Transactional analysis in psychotherapy. M., 2001). The method has limited possibilities of regressive practices and the “parent-child” dialogue, since it uses mainly verbal analysis and is time-consuming.

There is a method based on the theoretical foundations of the transactional cognitive theory of stress and coping (sore - English overcome), the authors of which are R. Lazarus and S. Folkman (Lazarus RS Folkman S. Transactional theory and research on emotion and coping. // Europ. J. Persomality. - 1987. - Vol.1. - P.141-169 .; Folkman S. // J. of Person and Soc. Psychology. 1984. Vol. 46 (4), P.839-852). In this method, the authors identified the psychological overcoming or coping of a subject with a difficult situation as cognitive and behavioral efforts of a person aimed at overcoming stress. The authors consider the active and passive forms of coping behavior, the first is aimed at overcoming the problem, the second - at managing emotional stress. The method considers the resources of the individual and the environment where the formation of a positive self-concept, internal locus control, social competence, affiliation (a person’s desire to be among people), social support, and cultural traditions of the family and community are important. The method is endowed with a high level of acceptance of possible forms of coping behavior, however, despite the declared theoretical integrated approach, it has limited possibilities of regressive practices, it does not use cultural copying resource enough.

There is a method of transition from one status to another using the rituals of transition (Mircea Eliade, Secret Societies, rites of initiation and initiation. "Sofia", 2002, p. 80; D. Frezer, Folklore in the Old Testament. M., 1990, p. 243, 255-264). The rituals of the “second birth” were resorted to when the social status changed, the imaginary person returned, during adoption with the aim of “turning the adopted person into a blood child”. Similar rituals existed in India, Spain, Bulgaria and other countries. Common to all the rituals is the placement of a person for a while in an enclosed space with an imitation of "embryo." During adoption, the parent took the child under the mantle, dress, covered with a scarf and passed through the folds of clothes. Mention of this rite can also be found in the Old Testament, Greek mythology.

All transition rites are marked by three phases: separation, face (mango, or limen, which in Latin means "threshold") and restoration (reaggregation). The first phase means the detachment of an individual or an entire group from a previously occupied place in the social structure. The second phase - the "liminal" period - is intermediate, since the participant receives duality features while in a cultural space that does not fit into the usual classifications of state and position. In the third, recovery, phase, the “transitional” regains its stable state and receives the rights and obligations of the “structural” type that meets the usual norms and standards (V. Turner, Symbol and Ritual. M., Nauka, 1983, p.17, 40) .

Despite the large number of works in the field of anthropology, the study of the ritual affects only its external side. This is the reason for the loss of the inner meaning of the ritual, its "code" and the restriction of its use in modern therapeutic practices.

There is a known method of dramatotherapy as a symbol of life changes (M. Andersen-Warren, R. Granger, Dramatotherapy. St. Petersburg, 2001, p. 158-160), used for significant life changes and transitions. The goal is to achieve a more stable balance. Theoretically, the method is based on a model of ancient rituals, therefore it has a three-part structure: beginning, middle and completion. The first part is related to the actualization of experience, reflecting past events and determining our reactions in the present. The second part reflects the imaginary reality of Chaos, accompanied by fear and the loss of "soil under your feet." The third part deals with new experience and new reality. The method involves a new experience, a shock that is not the result of gradual growth, but represents a breakthrough in a new, changing people's worldview. At the same time, it is assumed that the more total and destructive the upcoming changes are, the more blessed is the moment of “rebirth from Chaos”. The method takes into account that participants have experience in individual psychotherapy and counseling. The disadvantage of this method is that the technical side of the method does not correspond to the declared theoretical one: there is no in-depth experience of experiences, the state of Chaos, shock and all the experiences corresponding to the rites of passage. The method does not contain the opening of infantile (basic) unconscious meanings, as well as spiritual experiences.

Known methods of family psychological training (RF application No. 2004135399, A61M 21/00) involving children, group methods of working with children using game, art therapeutic agents, fairy tales (Spivakovskaya A. Psychotherapy: game, childhood, family. M., 2000; Kopytin A.N. System art therapy, St. Petersburg, 2003, p. 254-212). However, these methods using body therapy do not affect the deeper layers of the mental and cannot be used in cases of adoption.

According to the authors, the closest analogue to the claimed invention is a method of short-term therapy, used when there are problems in the field of interpersonal interaction and related to zones of interpersonal conflicts in case of disagreement between spouses, children, when changing social roles in case of divorce, leaving the family, moving, changing social role, as well as in the case of interpersonal deficiency in single, socially isolated people, various psychosomatic disorders, reactions to severe stress and impaired adaptation. The method has a structure that allows you to take into account changes in the dynamics of the group and personal characteristics of the participants (RF Patent N 2279899, A61M 21/00, dated June 25, 2004).

The method uses the methods of interpersonal psychotherapy and personality-oriented psychotherapy with elements of psychodrama and dramatic therapy exercises, which are aimed at working out interpersonal problems, understanding the causes of interpersonal conflicts, creating a constructive problem-solving skill in a structured session format. The main goal is the patient's awareness of the mental mechanisms of his own disease and the awareness of the relationship between increased symptoms and the actualization of intrapersonal problems.

At the first stage, the formation of the group takes place, cohesion is created thanks to verbal and non-verbal techniques and various dramatic therapeutic exercises. At the second stage, there is a study of conflict situations, the expression of aggressive feelings. There is an open expression of one’s feelings, an analysis of dependencies, non-independence, due to which there is a transition to responsibility. The third stage is characterized by intellectual work, during which the analysis of topics - trust, sympathies, antipathies, the opening of the root causes. The work uses psychodrama, where the participant plays the behavior that is most difficult for him, after which a discussion of various role positions takes place. At the fourth stage, work is underway to find out the causes of conflicts, ways to resolve them and to develop adequate ways of behavior, for which elements of psychodrama and role-playing situations are used. However, the method does not sufficiently use the modern technical capabilities of deep psychotherapy in group and personality-oriented psychotherapy. In the first three stages, the main form of work is a group discussion, which focuses on the verbal level of communication. And only at the fourth stage is biographical orientation applied, most often only to an individual patient, therefore the emotional-sensual sphere responsible for interpersonal relationships is not sufficiently involved. It does not appear from the above description that the method provides “a moment of a qualitative leap, a decisive separation of the future from the past”, which is necessary at the end of one cycle and transition to another.

The authors of the proposed method had the task of restoring the psychoemotional balance of patients by the method of integration deep therapy with changing socio-family status, with the adoption of a child and with difficulties associated with childbirth, as well as in the treatment of patients with various psychosomatic and psychoemotional disorders.

The problem was solved in that the method of restoring psychoemotional balance, including group interpersonal and personality-oriented psychotherapy aimed at working out the intrapersonal and interpersonal problems of the past experience, according to the invention consists of two cycles, while during the first cycle group psychotherapy is carried out using art therapy, body therapy and vibratory massage, during the second cycle, the patient is correlated with his social environment coexistence by the method of dramatic therapy, which consists of three stages and includes the “rebirth” ritual.

At the first stage, the transition from ordinary to dramatic reality is carried out by analyzing the biographical features of birth, early childhood conditions, cultural traditions of the family and the therapist’s story about the essence of ancient rituals of transition from one life cycle to another.

At the second stage, participants are introduced into the inner essence of the “rebirth” ritual through ritual actions and an accompanying story using a differentiated structure of the myth of the creation of the world and man and the integrating structure of the ritual, while the participants perform rhythmic swaying. Then they transfer participants from a chaotic state to a more stable one, establishing and directing an intentional dialogue between them, during which participants identify and integrate internal images and bodily sensations when they are in different semantic spaces and transitions between them.

At the third stage, they transfer from dramatic reality to everyday life by integrating individual and group experience and consolidate new worldview positions.

In addition, in the case of adoption of a child after the parents have passed both cycles of the method, the therapist carries out additional individual work with them to determine the necessary words for their explanation with the child. Then the therapist establishes a confidential contact with the child, places the parents and the child on opposite sides of himself, tells in a fairy tale form the creation myth, and prepares the child for the parents to communicate. Next, the therapist establishes and directs the intentional dialogue of parents with the child and helps the child express their feelings verbally or symbolically and go to the parents. After that, the family performs rhythmic swaying in the general rhythm and completes the action of the “rebirth” ritual.

The essence of the claimed method is as follows.

Deep changes in human life, which have long been considered a transition from one life cycle to another, are often associated with experiences at the level of loss of the meaning of life and the search for a new one that can combine different elements of reality together. Most often we are talking about a change in worldview, so a simple “rearrangement of terms” does not give anything. The transition to the new has never been a consequence of gradual growth.

The proposed method for restoring psycho-emotional balance is based on modern and ancient principles of self-organization of open systems, which include a person and a family. The modern theory of open systems defines a model for the transition from an disordered state to a more balanced, ordered one. The same task is also solved by the rituals of various cultural traditions.

The transition state is characterized by an increase in chaos and instability of the system and in some cases is accompanied by illness, conflict, destructive behavior and leads to maladaptive pathological conditions. One of the main conditions for the transition from chaos to a new self-organization is the presence of fluctuations and a more ordered information-energy structure that is able to transfer the nonequilibrium state of the system to a state of a higher order and to a new consistency of structures that ensures the interaction of this system with others.

Such an ordered structure, which has a higher energy and organization than the chaos that has developed, in the inventive method is first bodily depth therapy using small resonant effects, and then the “rebirth” ritual.

The prerequisite for the introduction of the ancient forms of ritual into psychotherapeutic practice was the experience that occurred during the use of body therapy using vibrational massage (p. No. 2005113102), which at a deeper level began to manifest its archetypal content not through a mythological plot, but through a ritual action. The dialogue between the therapist and the client made it possible to study the internal content of the ritual, to understand the meaning of symbolic actions that reveal various levels of reality and the forces that are inherent in people, relationships at these levels, and subsequently use the ritual in working with a group of adults and then in the practice of adoption. This was an important preparatory stage for penetrating into the cultural code of the “rebirth” ritual, in order to then use it as an integral part of dramatic therapy.

The introduction of the ritual into therapeutic practice was also facilitated by the observations made by the authors, who had worked for more than ten years in the burn department of the First Children's Hospital with children in critical condition between life and death, as well as with their parents. Clinical observations and their comparison with the stages of the transition ritual, which was carried out in antiquity for children 6 and 12 years old, allowed the authors to assume that children (and adolescents in the department were the most) undergo such a transition in a hospital, since all stages of the ritual were present in this healing process (V. Turner, Symbol and ritual. M., Nauka, 1983, p.17, 40; Mircea Eliade, Secret Societies, rites of initiation and initiation. “Sofia”, 2002, p.80).

The Slavic designation of the ritual as a “rite" (root - row) means the establishment of a regular sequence, a certain order as a necessary condition for the reproduction of primordial events. The ritual could restore a social structure close to a split or achieve peace by legitimizing a split, linking people together, ensuring fertility, health, and much more, which is why in critical situations people in different cultures turned to him (V. Turner, Symbol and ritual. M ., 1983, p. 12). Therefore, one of the important characteristics of the ritual is connectedness and continuity in establishing a new order.

The symbols of the ritual not only streamline, classify, but they are also mechanisms that awaken and integrate the powerful energies of the unconscious, while awakening the instinctive energies of life and actualizing such human emotions as fear, love, loneliness. It is this energy that is necessary to create a new structure and a new coordination of various plans for human existence: without this released energy, transition to a new level is impossible.

The introduction of intentional liminal dialogue is a new transforming component that allows you to penetrate the essence of the ritual and make it accessible to the contemporary, including people of all different faiths. Since dialogue is the culmination of the ritual, it reveals the underlying defense mechanisms that have become destructive.

Cosmogonic and anthropogonic myths exist among every nation and practically coincide, therefore people of the most diverse beliefs can participate in such a seminar. Passing the ritual provides a great cultural resource, reducing interethnic tension through personal spiritual experience.

The urgent task of the method is to help and teach a healthy lifestyle in overcoming the state of "chaos" and the transition to a more stable harmonious state. When conducting short-term group depth therapy, the authors proceeded from the following provisions:

- a high level of professionalism of the presenter, allowing him to react sensitively and quickly to all processes occurring in the group;

- establishing clear spatio-temporal boundaries of sessions;

- limitations of the main therapeutic goals by establishing their hierarchy and focusing them in subgroups;

- a high degree of personal responsibility of group members for everything that happens during the sessions;

- interactions in the context of “here and now”;

- the closed nature of the group in the first cycle and the possibility of including new participants in the second cycle, having passed the first cycle in an amount of not more than 20 percent of the group;

- creating a safe space;

- conclusion of a psychotherapeutic contract.

The inventive method is as follows.

First cycle.

When working with a group, its participants identify dependent and search behavior, the occurrence of aggravation, aggression and resolution of intra-group conflict, the formation of group cohesion, allowing to survive a spiritual conflict, gain experience and develop new coping strategies.

To ensure short-term effective therapy, the method uses a dynamic approach along with a thematic one, which is actively used to activate processes in the group.

To do this, first, in order to overcome indecision and dependent behavior, as well as for cohesion of the group, training is given to the elements of vibration massage with the obligatory change of the group member. Then, to resolve tension and enhance interaction between participants, a lecture is held, work with masks, in which all students participate. Game aspects in working with a mask help create a relaxed, trusting atmosphere.

Self-disclosure of group members brings them closer to each other and leads to weakening and awareness of defenses. Thanks to feedback, participants can learn about the features of their behavior. As a result of interpersonal interaction, a person receives an environmental and personal resource of overcoming (coping resource).

After each day of the 1st cycle, participants complete a written assignment that promotes faster learning of the skills to recognize emerging feelings, emotions, behavioral patterns, and their connection with conflict situations in life, which mobilizes the process of self-knowledge (cognitive aspect), self-regulation (behavioral aspect), and increases responsibility for your reactions and behavior. At the same time, the facilitators combine a directive approach in structuring classes and a flexible non-directive approach with a quick response - the therapist stimulates the patient's openness, attention and self-disclosure in the process of communication.

To obtain an environmental and cultural copying resource, a lecture is given on age cycles, the latest and ancient ideas about the Universe and Man, including archetypal and transpersonal ideas, the concept of self-organization of open systems is introduced; To understand the essence of interpersonal conflicts, the concept of transfer and countertransference processes, ancient practices of initiation and rituals of transition, preparation for childbirth and expectation of a child in different cultures is introduced.

Working with a mask also has a different meaning - it helps pave the way for a future role, a new strategy. The participant chooses a role that is significant for him: a social mask, a man, a woman, a wife, a daughter-in-law, etc. Initially, in the process of meditation, the participant gets acquainted with the existing mask, and then with the mask of the “future”. Then he draws them on different sheets. In the process, he alternately puts on masks, and the group asks him questions. In case of difficulty, the participant may ask someone to wear a mask. Practice helps to expand the image of oneself in a playful way, to create the potential for a future transition. In addition, it allows you to see the transpersonal aspect of art therapy, since feeling in a role helps to very accurately characterize a person’s behavior and emotional state, to see the conventionality of our built defenses, to touch our true world, potential future.

The following is an example of working with masks according to a specially developed therapeutic practice, which will allow us to penetrate into the essence of the transition, because any transition is presented to us, as to the ancients, by a process affecting the deepest foundations of our being, including both physical and spiritual.

For work, participant Y. chose to consider the mask "Men - the continuer of the clan," because that was what worried him the most.

I.'s first mask is his present. He marked it with light contours, depicting a young man sitting in a tower. Loneliness, isolation from the earth, isolation were obvious. This condition also worried parents, since the procreation was not visible on the horizon.

On the second mask (relating to potential), his unconscious painted a large oak tree with roots going into the ground. The crown was not visible, the oak was drawn only on a third - the trunk and roots leaving the ground. With his emphasis on the beginning, the figure suggested the potential, the reason located at the source of birth. The roots and the beginning of the trunk seemed to connect two worlds - the one that was underground, with the one above. The strength and power of the tree spoke of the long history of mankind.

I.: “I put on the first mask on my face and after a while I felt like a prisoner, who is in an old castle on a mountain in a damp, dark room. She was locked outside. Once I walked past this castle, went inside and stayed.

When I look out the window, I see the sea, and I have a feeling of longing and sadness. I didn’t want to leave, because it was impossible. In this case, a feeling of hopelessness arose. When Galina took the mask, she described herself as a hermit, a recluse who voluntarily decided to leave for solitude. I realized that I am free to leave there myself. Her description was most consistent with reality. Therefore, when describing this process, I highlighted the word “stayed.”

Participant O .: The first mask is the tower. The light penetrated the dungeon, and the young man seemed connected with this upper light, there was a feeling that it was not just loneliness, it was a solitude in which something was happening, and, perhaps, of his own free will.

The light sadness that I felt shifted my gaze out the window to where the young man was looking. There, as if in a fog, there was a forest, a river and a boat on which a girl was floating in a white robe, in the distance was a sea. Her transparent white dress merged slightly with the course and was as unassigned, not manifested as the delicate strokes of the drawing through which one could see the stone walls and the sad expression on the young man's face.

I.: “The other members of the group also wore a mask, all the work aroused my interest in the outside world.”

I.: “A second mask is put on - I am a huge, strong, powerful tree. I have a large and tall trunk, a huge crown, my roots go deep into the ground. From there they take water, food, energy for life and growth. I feel steady and straight on the ground. No wind will break me. I feel confidence, stability, strength.

In the process of the session I thought that at this stage I need to restore communication with the genus, and then move on. Another interesting thought came: how can a person have children if he himself is still a child? ”

At the end of the first cycle, the group is structured, the intrapersonal problems are reduced, since the work focused on emotional problems is being completed. The transition begins to overcome, "focused on resolving the situation", the transition to more adult roles. Work in the group moves to the archetypal level, including the modification of old norms and the creation of new ones. At this stage, constructive interaction between the participants is ensured, the activity of the participants through the mobilization of resources increases.

This approach in the first cycle, which includes elements of Eastern and Western culture, allows you to use both the left and right hemispheres, thereby increasing the potential of a person and his cultural resource in solving problems. Group interaction, awareness of one’s own internal and external resources, including family ones, awareness of the processes of transference and countertransference, work with a symptom help to take responsibility for their emotional and physical health, their formation as individuals.

The combination of eastern and western approaches in the method allows us to more fully realize the potential of a person. Body therapy, in which much attention is paid to bodily sensations, feelings, contributes to the development of the functions of the right hemisphere, based on an iconic sign system (gestures, facial expressions, pantomimes, dance, drawing), with which the world is directly displayed, visual standards are created that are stored in a long-term memory. With the right hemisphere is the awareness of one’s own state, the integrity of one’s body. The functions of this hemisphere reflect the worldview of a person in the early stages of his development, characterized by a deep inextricable connection with Nature, spiritualization of living and non-living objects and phenomena. The combination of these features can be attributed to the right-hemisphere type of psyche. Having changed, it is largely preserved in the culture of the countries of the East (China, India, Japan, etc.), which are characterized by contemplation, a tendency to symmetrical forms, a desire to go out to experience a single continuous reality, to overcome the existing discreteness.

Awareness, analysis in the therapeutic process, to which much attention is paid, contribute to the development of the functions of the left hemisphere. Left hemisphere thinking is called Western, this type of thinking defines a discrete, symptomatic approach in medicine and in society. The left hemisphere builds a symbolic sign system, due to which a conceptual reflection of reality is possible, it filters, systematizes information, relating it to one or another category.

The interaction of the sign systems of the right and left hemispheres seems to be one of the cardinal principles of mental activity. The results of encephalographic studies of states of consciousness during sessions of the first cycle confirm the stated theoretical premises. In addition, they note a high level of self-organization, as well as intuition, characterized by the merging in the high-frequency range of frequencies of energies of the right and left hemisphere, otherwise - the lack of asymmetry, which is not characteristic of consciousness in the usual state.

The method allows you to expand your understanding of the world through the dialogue of two sign systems and languages - iconic and symbolic, to get a cultural resource.

Second cycle

During the second cycle, the patient’s relationship with his socio-family environment is corrected in the aspect of spiritual-value relationships using dramatic action as a cultural copying resource. The inclusion in the seminar "Secrets of Birth" of the ancient ritual of the transition "Second Birth" allows you to simultaneously use the four therapeutic functions of influence - symbolic, value, motivational and role-playing.

A value position is the transmission and experience of core values and hierarchies. The motivational point of view determines the system of goals and means determined by the participant in the ritual. Role-based allows you to consider the interaction of various social statuses, in this case “child-parent-adult”, as well as the different experiences of people in different positions.

Using the symbolic language of the ritual allows three methods of actualization to be distinguished: 1) the explicit meaning related to the goals of the ritual and fully understood by the participant; 2) latent meaning, which is on the verge of the subject’s consciousness, therefore it cannot be fully realized; 3) the hidden meaning, fully related to the basic (infantile) experience common to all human beings (Turner. Symbol and ritual. M., 1983, p.16). By infantile, the authors understand not only the features characteristic of an earlier age of development, but also violations of intrauterine development.

Drama therapy uses both a rational and sensory-emotional channel, which is the basis for the perception of role-playing behavior, and takes into account the early age or “arche” - state of mind as a psychotherapeutic role.

The method uses children's roles and communication on an equal footing to penetrate the emotional world of the patient’s experiences, as well as for the patient to play the role of the “parent”. The purpose of the role change in the group is that the patient, as a "child", feels the need for parents or a loved one, who must ensure his emotional sense of comfort. Thus, the “child” transfers responsibility to the partner and he himself must fulfill it. The therapist, thanks to the intentional dialogue between the participants, helps the “child” or “parent” to clearly express their intentions through questioning.

At the first stage of dramatic therapy, the transition from ordinary to dramatic reality is carried out by analyzing the prenatal period, conditions of early childhood, family cultural traditions, family myths and rituals, the therapist’s story about the essence of ancient rituals of transition from one life cycle to another. The therapist explains the procedure for passing the ritual to the participants, while asking everyone to formulate a basic request for the passage of the ritual.

At the second stage, the ritual is introduced into the internal essence (the ritual is introduced into the internal semantic space) thanks to the text and its accompanying actions, and the participants perform a rhythmic wiggle. At the same time, the differentiated structure of the creation myth and the integrating structure of the “second birth” ritual are used, which allow for quick regression to various levels of the unconscious (mental) (prenatal, archetypal and transpersonal) and actualize the underlying deep value conflict.

The sequence of the ritual reflects the world order, the universal law as a whole; the unity of ritual and cosmic law is a reflection of the private as a whole. The very translation of the word “ritual” in many cultures means “doing,” developing, unfolding the cosmic law.

Returning to the origins was an ancient therapeutic tool in almost all countries of the world. To date, we have several ways to go back, of which the most significant are the following:

- a gradual return to the "sources", the so-called rise in Time, which can include the methods of modern psychology;

- quick or direct reintegration, corresponding to the return to the practical state or Chaos occurring in the ritual.

The recognition of the possibility of direct reintegration significantly expands the task of return or regression in psychology, for it sets a new benchmark, the purpose of which is not only memory, awareness within the framework of human life, rethinking of prenatal experience, but also direct experience and awareness of involvement in mythological spiritual history.

The ritual takes into account and owns the properties of space - time, namely:

1) The heterogeneity and non-neutrality of space - time. Its “quality” is determined by the objects in it. A qualitative characteristic can be correlated with the position of a given piece of space with respect to the center.

2) The ability to change the qualitative characteristics of space. This means that the heterogeneity or differentiation of space does not remain constant over time. So, in a situation timed to a certain time, the specified spatial picture can come into dynamics and change its qualitative characteristics in such a way that a duel with a chaotic beginning will be fought not at the periphery of space, but in the sacred center itself. Moreover, under these changed conditions, he becomes the center of chaotic forces hostile to man.

3) Space and time in a critical situation, at the junction of the Old and New Years (or after a certain period of time), can lose its previous structure, “break” so that only a fused spatio-temporal point remains, at which everything is decided . It becomes a “birthplace” of the future space and time, created anew in each new cycle of creation. A similar process affects all aspects of the physical, emotional and spiritual nature of a person or community.

All these properties, most clearly highlighted in the ritual, reveal the HUMAN man himself, his space, for he is a participant in this ritual action, and the transformation itself occurs not only outside, but also inside him.

The ritual is performed in two sessions.

Initially, the group of participants is divided into two parts, they are placed at different ends of the room, labeled “Source” and “Earth”, and their specific role load is defined as “children” and “parents”.

Then the participants take a comfortable set position while lying or sitting, performing a wiggle, during which the therapist tells the myth of the creation of the world, which helps the participants to enter a trance state and find the desired rhythm corresponding to this semantic space. Then the therapist invites each participant in the group of “children” to join the group of “parents”, choosing one of them according to a random principle and forming with him a pair of “child-parent” (“infant-earth”). The therapist asks participants to note feelings at the intersection of the boundary between the Source and the Earth.

Then, participants in pairs, taking a comfortable pose, perform a wiggle, which the therapist accompanies with a story about the stages of embryo development in the body of the expectant mother. In conclusion, he asks to note his desire to separate from his mother or parent. After that, the participants share their experiences while going through all the stages.

After that, one of the couples is located in front of the others in the space of the “Source” and talks about his feelings and experiences.

Next, the therapist covers this pair with a scarf and asks to continue wiggling, music that helps to enter the semantic space sounds. The therapist helps to realize the meaning of the images and sensations of both participants in the action by establishing and directing the liminal intentional dialogue “parent” - “child”.

The transformation of the chaotic state and the transition to a more stable state is carried out thanks to the intentional dialogue ("child - parent", "infant - earth" or "archestructure - parent"), which the therapist establishes between the participants who are in the liminal (limen) state corresponding to the deep state trance during the "second birth" ritual. Speech is used as a way of self-regulation and is very important for experiences of death - rebirth, unusual conditions associated with experiences of an archetypal nature. The dialogue allows you to realize and integrate internal images and bodily sensations that arise when you are in different semantic spaces and transitions between them and, thanks to the actualization of a value conflict in interpersonal interaction, establish deeper connections within yourself, strengthening the spiritual and psychological unity of the person, connections with other people and with community as a whole.

Then the scarf is removed and the participant is invited to crawl through the corridor formed by the other pairs in the role of a “child”, and the participant in the role of a “parent” meets him at the exit from the corridor. After that, the “born again” takes several steps, pronouncing new keywords for the next stage of life.

All stages of the ritual are performed alternately by all pairs of participants.

At the second session, the participants change roles and the ritual is completely repeated.

At the final, third, stage, the participants move into everyday reality due to the integration of individual and group experience. This experience includes the physiological, socio-psychological and existential-spiritual aspects of human development in the family and community, the development of new ideological positions and actions based on the new image of the “I”, as well as the relationship “I” and “world”.

The course of therapy averages 15 days at 8 hours a day. In the case of on-site seminars, the course may be reduced to 10 days.

Features of the method during adoption.

It is believed that the family is the best alternative for the child compared to various shelters and orphanages. Foster children are at risk for many reasons. However, there is an opinion that a child who enters a foster family in the first years of life up to 3 years old is more adapted. On the other hand, foster parents have to adapt to relationships in the family and society, where many have prejudices. Therefore, adoption remains a very delicate area, and assistance to both parents and children is extremely important (Edited by Christopher Gillberg and Lars Hellgren. “Psychiatry of childhood and adolescence.” M., Publishing House “GE OTAR-MED” , 2004).

Initially, parents take classes in the group for the first and second cycle. This allows them to prepare for adoption, to receive personal, environmental and cultural copying resources and experience that the emerging difficulties can be resolved using modern therapeutic approaches. If necessary, parents have the opportunity of additional individual sessions. By participating in the “Secrets of Birth” seminar using the “second birth” ritual, parents get the opportunity to get a powerful resource at the physiological, communication and spiritual levels, touch their inner experiences, the secret of their birth, feelings of loneliness and desire for community. Very often, these experiences are connected by a fine thread with the adopted child and his fate.

Participating in the seminar and perceiving the experience of other people helps parents to obtain the multifaceted experience of different entry into this life, understand the birth of their child and prepare for the adoption ritual in order to better understand the feelings that the child may experience during the ritual. Before the adoption ritual, a session of rational and bodily therapy is necessarily carried out with the parents to prepare them for the ritual, find the form and words of the message of “family secrets” to the child and the desire for adoption. Before the ritual, the therapist gets to know the child, establishes a confidential contact with him, choosing a convenient form of therapy, for example, using fairy tale therapy.

The design of the room is prepared in advance, as a rule, it corresponds to the holiday or the one that the child likes best. Before the ritual begins, the child is opposite the parents, and the therapist is between them. The therapist tells a myth or fairy tale about the creation of the world, it can be accompanied by viewing pictures in a book. After this, the therapist talks about the importance of the day’s events and asks the parents to tell the child “family secrets” and their desire for adoption.

During the ritual, methodical techniques of non-directive game therapy are used in working with children. The most important is the adoption of the child and the creation of an atmosphere of sincerity, trust and security for the child and parents. Despite the clear structure of the ritual, the permissibility of any behavior of the child is established. This ensures safety and helps the child express his feelings, which, as a rule, are actualized at this moment. The therapist provides the opportunity for the child to choose a line of behavior without forcing the dynamics of the process, and follows the slightest changes in the child’s behavior, establishing an intentional dialogue between him and his parents, helping to make the necessary connection, and then the transition to parents, as a transition from one reality to another. This dialogue may be verbal or symbolic in nature, depending on the age and condition of the child. The therapist in dialogue uses the same characters, words, as the child.

Such an atmosphere of security helps the child express his conscious and unconscious tensions, insecurity, and fears. The therapist through intentional dialogue helps to establish a connection, find out the causes of resistance, if they arise. The child, expressing his feelings and emotions, positive or negative in this process, receives the right to participate independently in life situations, and the therapist supports this right of the child.

After the child goes to the parents, they hug him and sit down together, the therapist covers them with a scarf. As experience shows, children who are afraid of enclosed spaces in this case do not show resistance. Parents slightly sway the child who sits on their lap, trying to find a common unifying rhythm for all of them. The therapist maintains an intentional dialogue, while subtly feeling any changes in the created therapeutic space of the ritual. Time “under a scarf” can take from 10 to 20 minutes. According to the decreasing depth of trance, the therapist feels the completion of the process. After that, the scarf is removed, and the process ends with the passage of the channel or the father gets up and takes the child and then the child is separated from the parents. In any case, there is a break with the mother. This is a symbolic gap, because at the same time there is inclusion in the family through a festive atmosphere, congratulations and joy.

Adopted children experience much more difficulties in adaptation than healthy children. The intrauterine or early childhood memory stores knowledge of rejection and loneliness in the body, developing protective mechanisms for flight and struggle, often through increased aggression. The ritual helps to remove these protections through a feeling of love and acceptance at the deepest level, and this helps to create a new atmosphere for the child in his newfound family. For parents, this also has great psychological and spiritual significance, the very fact of communion through the ritual unites them spiritually. The ritual ends with a celebration and congratulations, general drawings. For several days, parents observe the physiological change of the child, so the child is constantly with them for three days.

The immediate technical result is that the claimed method is based on a multi-level personality model, cultural traditions and provides access to the currently known levels of the unconscious: rational, biographical, prenatal, transpersonal, spiritual, providing a connection between the mental and somatic. The method provides for the study of both personal and interpersonal issues, while through the development of interpersonal issues, the conflict is actualized and the intrapersonal spiritual-value conflict is reached, and a positive self-concept is formed. The method emphasizes a socially supportive process in which a resource is important, expressed in friendly support and new experience, and which facilitates the use of new forms of interaction with others.

The transition to a more adult position, taking responsibility for one’s holistic development, behavior, as well as relationships, developing a positive coping strategy is due to direct experience and awareness, which provides a way to consistently throughout all cycles and stages, starting with rational and ending with spiritual experience . This method is aimed at improving the personality, establishing unity within it, due to the resolution of conflicts between internal and external existence, conscious and unconscious, I - and the community, developing an active strategy and coping behavior. Experiences of a spiritual and existential nature help to survive the value aspects in the context of interpersonal relationships, warmth, intimacy, safety, necessary for the development of both a child and an adult. This allows you to have a more adult spiritual position in relation to the family and the community as a whole. Therefore, obtaining a technical result when using the proposed method allows the participants in the process to gain new knowledge and experience, personal-environmental and cultural resources that allow you to make a qualitative transition to a new life cycle.

Examples of the method

Preliminary group and individual work on the first cycle allows you to get a resource thanks to a gradual regression to different levels of the mental: biographical, prenatal, archetypal and transpersonal; adjust the goals for the new period, having received a resource on the physical, emotional-psychological, intellectual and spiritual planes. During this cycle, participants acquire important skills of observation, awareness through swaying and rhythm, which underlies the massage technique, learn to find the rhythm of another person. At the Secrets of Birth workshop, these skills are very important to complete this transition through chaos and pave the way for a new integrated state.

Due to the large volume of essential transformation occurring during the first cycle of classes, the authors provide a complete description of only one case. All subsequent cases will be abbreviated.

The second cycle of the proposed method, using the modern therapeutic form of the “Mystery of Birth” ritual, built on the principles of dramatic therapy, requires certain confirmations in terms of entering into the internal essence of the ritual using modern therapeutic agents. Therefore, the authors consider it possible to give several examples of the ritual, confirming the transition from a chaotic state to an equilibrium state through the liminal state.

For example, one of the well-known researchers of the ritual V. Turner, referred to by the authors of art therapy and drama therapy (M. Andersen-Warren, Dramotherapy, St. Petersburg, 2001, p. 160), notes that the ambivalent properties of various experienced states of the participants during the ritual “expressed by a wide variety of symbols, and linality is often likened to death, uterine existence, invisibility, bisexuality, desert, eclipse of the sun and moon” (V. Turner. Symbol and ritual. M., 1983, p.17-18).

The cited passages of the “intentional liminal dialogue”, according to the authors, indicate that one has entered into a state of linality, as well as the possibility of using the proposed method as effective in changing social and family status, issues of childbearing and adoption. The transition due to the intentional dialogue from Chaos, corresponding to the liminal state, is a hallmark of the proposed method.

The above example is a short recording of a workshop where all five participants were present.

Victor and Alla, who are in a civil marriage, went through the first cycle in different groups and met at this seminar. As a review of the literature on family therapy shows, often the causes of conflict or disruption in family relationships are related to the fact that partners have the same underlying conflict, but emotionally expressed in different ways. They consider this conflict to be profound, since they attribute our reactions to the "old" brain (Harville Hendricks. How to achieve the desired love. M., Cron-Press, p. 152-163, 186-187). The example given reflects this concept. According to the authors, the proposed method can be used in family therapy and partnership therapy.

The usual number of participants at such a seminar is from 8 to 12 people. This provides the most complete experience, the opportunity for the therapist to carry out from 4 to 6 processes per day, including an intentional dialogue, the duration of which is from 20 to 50 minutes.

The proposed intentional dialogue, conventionally called "child - parent" or "archaic structure - earth", has a number of features. A distinctive feature is the immersion of two participants in a state of liminality, in which there is an increased sensitivity to feelings, the words of the second participant. Since the experiences of the participants are quite unusual and sometimes associated with the experience of death-rebirth, the therapist constantly keeps in touch with them, as if holding the connection of this and this worlds.

In this process, any changes in the sensations or feelings of one participant lead to changes in the sensations of another. This happens much faster than in a conventional therapeutic process. On the other hand, if one of them falls into the zone of “fear” - hopelessness, halt, the other participant, through interaction with the semantic space, reflecting his feelings, can change a lot and give a significant resource to the other. The goal of the therapist is to support and guide this process, following the space of the ritual. This allows you to deepen it and not be limited to the biographical level. The therapist must be a trained specialist in the field of analytical, archetypal psychology and partner therapy. During the dialogue, the therapist constantly asks the question to one and the other participant: “How do you feel?” This allows you to create a dialogue with an instant response. The appeals are not always specific, since participants can identify with animals, plants, other creatures of man and the universe. The purpose of the question is to reveal the symbolic meaning behind this image or sensation.

When immersed in a prenatal state, this dialogue can be in the nature of “child - parent”, at the archetypal level “archestructure - earth”, at the transpersonal level - “mental complex - earth or parent”.

The exit from this state (when removing the scarf) always ends with the dialogue "participant - participant".

EXAMPLE 1

2002 year

Sergey - 28 years old, head of engineering. Seven years was married, eight months ago there was a divorce. There is increased emotional stress, anxiety. Motivation for the cycle: achieving emotional stability, resolving interpersonal conflicts, personal growth, which allows you to establish contact with your inner soul world, gaining confidence in your social status, and overall recovery.

The first cycle: in the process of the first cycle, motivation was concretized and a hierarchy of life goals was gradually established, which at the end of the first cycle was concentrated around reducing emotional anxiety and building new relationships. Before the second cycle, motivation changes to creating a family and having a baby. It turned out that in the first marriage there were three failed pregnancies. The last pregnancy was interrupted at the 7th month due to the underdevelopment of the fetus. The older brother also has no children, therefore, Sergey considered the task of giving birth to a child as a generic task related to procreation, and a high level of anxiety in creating new relationships was also associated with this. In the role of the “newly born” (“child”), the task was to get out of the period of stagnation, unresolved, in the role of the “parent” - to touch the task of procreation. The birth was normal, pleasant childhood memories - these are the memories of my grandmother’s house, a sports camp.

First cycle

In the process of interacting with the group, I felt fear, which I associated with distrust, noticed that I had poor control of my emotional energy. It was difficult to immediately find the rhythm necessary for a person in bodily practice.

When working with the body, I felt a block in the neck, as if there was a gap between the head and body, feelings and thoughts, I realized that it is difficult to express your deepest feelings and this is how it is in life. The solar plexus also attracted attention during meditation.

However, gradually performing the massage, he became more confident in the interaction.

Sergey: At the session, I was asked a question - how to manage my energy, which I call volcanic for myself, and which makes me emotionally unstable lately.

After a lecture on the stages of development and conducting small vibrations in the massage, I felt a spasm in the solar plexus. There were memories when, in their teens, they were experimenting with pressure on the solar plexus, and then they seemed to lose consciousness. The second memory was associated with sessions of holotropic therapy, where there were similar sensations. The spasm is a little weakened. My experiments seemed boyish, irresponsible, which seemed to separate me and my body.

When asked how to integrate, I saw the church and then - a fiery stream between heaven and earth, golden above, brown below. Then a spasm in the throat - I am alone in my grandmother’s apartment, a feeling of abandonment, abandonment, loneliness.

Conclusion: you can learn to manage your own forces only in cooperation with the Higher forces, harmony and balance of the forces of the Earth and the Sky are important. Loneliness, abandonment - this is the state of my soul. This is the answer to those incomprehensible depressive states that sometimes arise.

From his internal resources he singled out perseverance, perseverance, logic, physical strength. From the outside - sociability, dancing, friends.

In the family, my father was very strict towards us, my mother supported me all the time.

Body therapy session

Work was proposed with a fairy tale, which was supposed to come at the time of the massage. Participants were asked to choose a topic related to the past that would help them provide a resource for the future.

Sergey: I am a child lost in the forest. Wolves picked me up, warmed and protected, gave my strength.

Suddenly I felt like a huge furry gray wolf with powerful breasts and paws. Leader, I thought. Chest - strength - confidence, this is what I missed at work. Often doubts arose as to whether I could lead, as I am quite young for a leader. Image and feeling brought confidence.

With further massage and the transition to small vibrations, I felt a strong emotional arousal, I wanted to make repulsive movements with my hands. The childhood memories came, the desire to distance oneself from the women's team with its emotionality. I realized that the choice in the first marriage was made based on safety. With continued movement, I felt like a panther - Bagheera. A feeling of strength, flexibility, pleasure from contact with the earth and even imposingness came. This made the whole body feel. And to understand that my desire to step back, sometimes aggressively, was a defensive reaction, but, being conscious, it could transform into confidence and connection with the earth, flexibility, which is important for relationships. This helped to accept their female part - for me Bagira - associations with the female, graceful and yet something male.

Then he fell into the arms of a huge brown bear, then he himself became a bear - a feeling of strength, power, natural wisdom. Strength is concentrated in the sacrum. This is strength for the family, I thought, but then again felt a spasm in my throat.

Conclusion: A fairy tale is similar to my life, but it also gives a resource - even when I am alone, I am not alone, there are my friends inside me - helpers who are ready to give me strength, energy, wisdom. Wolf is a leader. Panther and bear - the image of a harmonious combination of masculine (strength, power, determination, concentration) and feminine (flexibility, relaxation, lightness, tenderness), these are my instincts - parts of spiritual strength, helping my soul - my child. From this came confidence. The knowledge of spiritual traditions about animals, about their purpose and assistance to humans was interesting. The connection between the bear and the lair seemed interesting.

The next session involved working with masks, initially there was meditation, then we alternately wore them, asking questions. The first mask is what I am now, the second helped to understand what could be revealed, it was the mask of my potential future. Sergey chose to work with a mask of a man.

Masks: What am I - the left side is white, the right is brown, between them a deep border. Conclusions: it's time to say goodbye to the image of a serious man. What I really am, what I can be: a white-blue picture, the harmony of male and female. Clear parallels with the emerging images of water and Bagheera in previous classes.

Working with the first mask, I felt that it was not my own. I used it for protection. Now it is ineffective, hence the neurotic state. Now I’m strong enough to take it off, now I don’t need protection, I can be myself.

The therapist offered to work with the mask of the one who causes more emotions.

When working in a group, I was attracted to Luba's mask, and I put on her to speak from her. Luba seemed to me the most difficult person to contact. It was hard for me to understand what she really wanted, verbosity was annoying, and I often reacted emotionally to her statements.

Sergey: My feelings when working with Any. I put on her first mask and felt like a child in a cocoon, into which neither light, nor sounds, nor heat penetrate. It’s dark, cold, lonely, it’s as if I were not born yet. This soul is forgotten and abandoned, she wants to be remembered. It becomes crowded, the cocoon turns into dense diapers. The cocoon spreads, it becomes warm, and light appears in the solar plexus.

Conclusion: the abandoned and forgotten soul of Luba caused a strong response in me. This problem is close to me, I also rejected for a long time my spiritual beginning, and with it my “I”. I understood my transference, and it was surprising to me that we had the same sources of problems with her. This allowed a different look at conflicts in general.

Moreover, it was in the work in it that the light appeared in the solar plexus for the first time - a resource, a spasm, which often led to unpleasant sensations. I believe that this is precisely the part that is associated with the manifestation of individuality, one’s position in life, one’s self.

After the divorce, it seems that I am incapable of lasting close relationships. Fear of letting someone deep into your soul. Fear of pain in close relationships. In this work, I chose the person whom I most trusted in the group - it was a woman.

During the massage, closing his eyes, he felt powerful energy shocks in his arms and legs, especially in the feet. At this moment, I realized the connection between spiritual openness and energy - when you are in deep spiritual contact with a person, you feel the energy flow between yourself and him. There is a constant exchange of energies, feelings, emotions.

Then I felt a heaviness in my body, like a bag of sand, then an image of a balloon arose. A bag is a ballast that pulls it to the ground, prevents it from flying to a dangerous height, losing control. This is not a brake, but my defense - sometimes slowness. Moreover, this is a tool, having learned how to use it (to pour and pour sand), I can when I want to land (ground, mind, calculation), and when I want - to fly up (feelings, emotions, carelessness).

Closure is not always bad. It is far from always necessary to let in other people. Sometimes this can be a threat to my integrity. Closedness does not allow negative energies that can come from a loved one to penetrate inside. It is important that this process is realized and therefore controlled.

After awareness, the heaviness in the body disappeared, in the solar plexus there was heat and an energy clot that I can control.

Sergey: In the group there was a woman who at an early age was given to another family. Her story about herself caused pain in me and memories of my divorce. I tried to avoid working with her as a couple, because I was afraid that I could touch severe pain. Sometimes it seemed that this pain of hers did not allow seeing more, since she perceived herself as a victim, I expressed my assumption on the group and decided to check what was similar in me.

I chose to work with the fear of hurting me to another person. Unwillingness to bear responsibility for the one whom I tamed is about my last marriage. Despite the divorce, it’s as if the relationship has not stopped yet, in part I feel like a “victim”, I want to complete it in order to build a new one.

At first I felt two black fingers, not mine, clinging to my neck in front. To my left I saw an image of a solar eclipse. The Black Moon closed the Sun, leaving only a light rim around the edge.

Awareness: The Black Moon - Lilith, sexuality, overshadows the sun - the mind, the masculine - is in me. Sometimes it’s useful to control your feelings with the mind and prevent some of them from developing, overwhelming the mind. This is important for past relationships and for those who began to develop in order to move at all, and not to go in cycles.

The group noted that it’s easy for me to feel others, and many people choose me in pair work. However, I myself notice that sometimes I get carried away and as if I don’t see something. This was a continuation of past work.

During the session, the face seemed to be divided in half, then felt a black veil on the left side of the face, to the level of the eye. At first everything was dark, then a light appeared from above that fills the left half of the head, dark and empty on the right. In the middle is a black border, light penetrates into the right half of the head, drops down into the hands and goes to the waist, fills the whole body. I turn into a big yellow luminous ball.

Awareness: the veil on the left, the fossil of the left eye suggests that now we need to use the right eye - a reasonable view of things. The light from above gives an understanding of the existence of something larger and more important than feelings and emotions. When I was a ball, I felt a detachment from my human experiences and a huge creative energy inside - like some kind of spiritual beginning in me.

You don’t always need to interact, sometimes you need to step back from the situation, feel yourself, your strengths and energies, realize your destiny by and large, and then make a choice.

Recent sessions have been aimed at correcting inappropriate interactions. Conflict relations of a past marriage lose their central character. This entails a reduction in anxiety and neurotic symptoms. For the patient’s cognitive sphere, it is important how he himself can create unfavorable situations, how his emotional behavior contributes to this. The therapist's task is to provide interpersonal awareness that will help shape more appropriate forms of behavior.

Second cycle

Workshop - ritual "Secrets of birth"

Cultural resources. Sergey: I was surprised to note that the ritual in the family was continuous change - moving, since my father was a military man. “I remembered how we said goodbye to old things. It used to be a painful process for me as a child, but now I remembered it as support. Now I also say goodbye to the old. As such, the rituals in the traditional sense were in the village where my grandmother lived in Ukraine. I remembered harvesting as a symbol of death and at the same time fertility. It was attended by many people. And it was important that I participated in it as a child, as if joining the power of the earth with the fertile power of people. My parents often sent me to my grandmother. This gave confidence and strength to the seminar. I thought about my family and its continuation and asked for help from the earth. "

Initially, Sergei chose the role of a “child”; his partner was Galina, a 48-year-old woman who came to classes with the task of healing and restoring family relations after her husband's infidelity. There was excessive anxiety, anxiety, distrust, anxious sleep.

On the second day, his partner in the seminar was Victor, 40 years old. Victor had recently divorced, and the seminar was time for him to create new relationships in a new family. A year and a half ago, he moved from Kazakhstan. Despite the new relationship, everything seemed black and dull, the lack of joy, and this condition he connected not only with divorce, but as Victor said - “it seems that it has always been like that - it's dark all around”. Motivation Victor: I want to tear myself away from the past and start all over again.

Galina is the “parent”, Sergey is the “child”.

After passing the first stages of the ritual, the therapist invites the couple to the part of the space that represents the “Source of Creation” - the sacral part where the first stage took place, and asks to tell about what happened at the previous stages. The group is opposite and listens attentively. Two participants briefly talk about important things in the previous stages.

Sergey: The origins of creation had a pleasant feeling of flying, the word moving from cloud to cloud. And then immediately everything changed when they said about the Earth, and I saw the desert - as the beginning of life. But then associations arose with Egypt, and it was a little scary who I would meet, what kind of woman would accept me. He took the number with alarm, rang the bell and crossed the border.

At first it was uncomfortable, even indifferent, but closer to 9 months in the course of the story I found my position and calmed down, and realized that I did not want to leave. And then a full sigh and a detachment.

Galina: When I waited, the first sensation was: I am not so much a mother, but rather the soil, which can provide a place for a seed, a flower. There was an idea that I am not only soil and something beautiful can grow on me.

At the time of the arrival of the child, she felt very comfortable, understanding that it was necessary to give space for growth. Everything was pleasant, harmonious, warm, good, but when the therapist called 7 months, it became uncomfortable. The first thought - I will tolerate, if only the child was well. But then the understanding came - there was a lot of patience in life, and this did not lead to anything good. And as soon as I thought about it, he was the first to start looking for a different position. At 9 months, she felt that he did not want to disconnect. Then I began to say mentally: you are big, there is a wonderful life, everything will be fine, you need to prepare for the exit.

The therapist covers both with a scarf, asks to start wiggling and accept a new experience, music sounds.

Therapist: How are you feeling?

Galina: Heat, calm, safety.

Therapist: Sergey, I noticed that you straightened your back. What does it give?

Sergey: When Galina said this, I felt the volume. A sense of magnitude inside, there - like an empty cavity. There are no borders. The heart thumps at the very bottom.

Therapist: What can you compare?

Sergey: This jug is big, like in the Summer Garden about. It began to fill with water.

Therapist: What does water give?

Sergey: Water gives confidence, density. Center of gravity. Water splashes at the neck.

Therapist: What is the feeling that you are full? What is this water for or for whom?

Sergey: I’m full - it’s not for someone, the neck is very narrow, and the jug does not turn over. It will be hard for someone to get drunk. Not for that. A vase for being filled.

Therapist: How do you feel, Galina?

Galina: Water, dense, lively. A white-yellow glow appeared inside. I can’t say that yet. Sensation that there is too much water.

Sergey: As soon as Galina said this, the liquid leaked out, the vase split into two halves. They flew off the pedestal, a fragment remained on the pedestal. There was a metal rod on which everything rested. The feeling that everything is artificial, temporary.

Therapist: And where did the filling come from, was there a source?

Sergey: There are no sources, everything is clogged below. Like the cessation of movement and life in general. The head is very large, it cannot be restrained, it deviates, as if falling and pinching the throat, there is nothing to breathe, I can not speak. And I feel how Galina relaxed her hands, it helps me to change my position - to lie down.

Therapist: There is a deepening of the process, slowly bend down and watch the sensations and feelings that come in images. Who are you now?

Sergey: I don’t know yet ... The body is ethereal, I don’t feel physically. Heavy breathing. It’s like I was not born. It is like a Source.

Galina: I will be with you.

Sergey: But I want to know how it is to feel physically, I want to feel it. Probably feel life.

Therapist: How is it now?

Sergey: I am an embryo. I do not feel good. Dark, no light. I am very small, even transparent, fragile, vulnerable. It is visible that inside.

Therapist: This is the beginning of life. We are constantly reborn, and the seed ripens in the dark. And what does mom feel?

Galina: The child greatly decreased in size, became transparent, as if greenish, inactive. For me it is a surprise. Such a metamorphosis, and I do not know what to do with it. Feeling like a lot of heartache.

Therapist: What does this pain do to you?

Sergey: I want to cry when I heard this ... It seems to me that tears can melt this pain and I can feel my body.

Therapist: Tell me, how do your tears flow?

Sergey: They are dripping from the eyelashes, as if ice is melting, as in the ice kingdom ... Slowly a ray of light passes through the hole, it becomes larger, it is above.

Galina: I want to help, convey my love, feelings, as I can, I help.

Sergey: In response, I feel the heart, it pricked. I see the spot is brown, like something dried up, like a crust. It's inside of me, in the bud.

Therapist: Where is it?

Sergey: This is opposite the heart, in the other half of the chest. It turned into the right lung. As if from this drop of blood a lung was born. Looks like I'm growing. Only the spine is transparent. There is no transparency now. One lung is bigger than the other. It looks like leather fur.

Therapist: Do you seem to be observing a change and the birth of another form?

Sergey: Yes.

Galina: I want to warm, warm you.

Sergey: From the back - your warmth, Galina, warmth, as if I can let it through me, breathe, let in other people. Transparency is like the possibility of another interaction and the birth of a different form.

Therapist: What happens to your body and feelings when you allow it to skip?

Sergey: Warmth behind, trust, tenderness. I see ahead hands strewn with golden sand, the wind blows on me, and it falls through the pores of the skin, it settles on me, it penetrates inside me, I breathe it.

Therapist: What gift are you receiving right now. What a gift?

Sergey: Hands give me this life. And I also want to reach out to others and give them tenderness, love ... and life. These hands show: see. Must see. And as they give me, I also have to give. It is divine. This gives a feeling of global unity with others.

Therapist: Galina, how did you feel?

Galina: First, pity, compassion. I did not understand what I could do. But he was growing, and I was getting better, I could help. For me, this is about the connection of two people and their growth. And partly a child is also a creation. The meaning and quality of a person is to give birth, to create, not to be afraid to change.

Sergey: It gives me the opportunity to grow, I feel the influx of energy through the coccyx, I have already turned into a large embryo, I have acquired real forms. This living energy, not the one at the beginning. She fills all the cells. If water splashed in the tank, then there is filling at the cellular level. It penetrates, nourishes me like soil.

Therapist: Why did you go through this embryonic development, do you think?

Sergey: I went through embryonic development in order to return to the source of life, with which we are all connected, and gain a rod, real, and not artificial reinforcement. The head runs wildly upward. I'm like a snake. I am ready for birth.

Therapist: Galina, but what is this process for you?

Galina: We are responsible for everything. Sometimes we can act irresponsibly in relation to a spiritual or earthly creation. You can not do it this way. I realized that before I could act rashly, as if I myself knew everything, but now ... There are many mysteries, many ways. Now I am ready to let him go, I understand that I need to give the last push, because he is ready to leave.

Sergey: Snake - the spine sways harder. I feel the flexibility of the whole body, shoulders.

Sergey rolled over and rested his feet on Galina's legs. She created a support, saying: "You were not just born, show yourself, Sergey."

He crawled along the channel, wriggling, clinging to the earth, eating its juices, distributing the energy given to him in the process throughout his body. The keywords he uttered, rising from the floor and taking steps: Strength, earth, snake, growth, tenderness.

A snake is a complex symbol that has many meanings in the process of transformation. It symbolizes the power of the earth, which supports life and its changes. It is a symbol of spontaneous creative energy. Due to its ability to shed and renew skin, it often symbolizes anti-aging forces. Often it appears during the transition period and symbolizes the power that supports transformation and transformation. Before the start of the ritual, Sergei announced his desire to part with the past period of stagnation, indecision. Like a serpent, the ego in the form of a cup grows out of its skin and breaks into pieces. It moves from artificial installations to new natural ones (spinal energy). In any case, it symbolizes the transitional stage from one stage of evolution to the next. The presented case clearly symbolizes the process of decay, regressive dissolution, and progressive integration within an hour of therapeutic work. These processes in psychology are called disintegration - integration, and in ancient practices - death - rebirth.

The next day of the workshop.

Sergey - “parent”, Victor - “child”

After going through all the stages of the ritual, the therapist invites the couple to the part of the space representing the “Source” and asks to tell about what happened at the previous stages.

Victor: There was alarm when I was in that space. I didn’t want anything at first, but then I felt the warm hands and the therapist swaying, which helped me find the right rhythm. They helped me, and this gave a strong impetus - I have to go, choose myself, I took the number and rang the bell. I did not know who would be my mother, and was very surprised when I saw Sergey, there were so few men at the seminar, and suddenly I chose him.

When he sat down, he immediately forgot everything and fell into childhood: parental protection, adoption, unshaven cheek. The therapist's words sounded somehow far away, but I felt everything: comfort and joy, bright children's cheerful memories. Development progressed normally. At 7 months - the fear that you need to leave. I pressed myself, Sergey hugged me, there was mutual understanding and care. Gradually, the fear disappeared, and calm appeared. I went out calmly, with a sense of preparedness and curiosity for life, pacification, submission to life. When I was a parent yesterday, I did not want to let go and I did not want to leave myself.

Therapist: What does this mean for you?

Victor: It’s like it is now, as if it had not yet left that part of life, the past family, either there or here. And it was important then to tell Sergey everything, even though I am not a storyteller.

Therapist: Sergey, how did you feel?

Sergey: I was like a flower that opened its petals and waited. I am just part of the earth. Vitya came up, and I felt that it was masculine, the boy is what I need. I myself grew up without physical contact with my father. I was told that the boy should not be caressed - this is the future man, you can not lisp with him. And I thought that I wanted a child, a girl — I could give her all kindness and warmth to her, but I did not know what to do with the boy. It was an experience that a boy can be given warmth. Vitya clung to me, snuggled up, and I did not even doubt that the boy could be caressed. I hugged him tenderly. It was nice to hug him, he took my hand. It was nice to adjust to it, to its rhythm. Toward the end, there was a feeling of inner fear, especially before the exit. He clung to me, and I wanted to hug him stronger. I wanted to give confidence. Then something happened inside, as if he somehow felt it, and the fear was gone, and I began to let it go. Directly through my hands, through my fingers, I conveyed to him love and touch.

Victor: Immediately lost the feeling of a cavity. It was a parental cradle, and it didn’t make a difference, father or mother.

The therapist covers with a scarf, music sounds, the participants begin to wiggle.

Victor: I gradually enter the state. I became small, plunged somewhere deep, into the cradle, which I was ready to accept. A pipe goes up - a channel is an exit to the world. I have to get out of it. I am still very small, I am free.

Sergey: White wings from my chest, they folded like a cradle. This is the cradle for the soul. I hold a baby in them. Yellow light. I feel care, love.

Victor: I swim in water, in a vessel, it shakes and sways me in it. She whips me, and I begin to grow slowly.

Therapist: Absorb everything in this liquid.

Sergey: I saw this liquid that fills the cradle. She is filled with light from my chest. It is pierced by my sunshine.

Victor: I grew up, I have legs, they are, and they want to move. At the same time, I feel that we are swinging more. I'm getting ready for the jump.

Nothing but legs. There is still a head.

Sergey: I’m not afraid, I am pleased to feel the development, as if new abilities and movements are being born. I want to help, cheer up, convey my warmth and love, I want you to know that you are not alone - I will help.

Victor: I feel the opportunity to snuggle, there is protection and love. I got wings, my legs move all the time.

Therapist: What are these wings?

Victor: Like a butterfly or dragonfly, when they emerge from the chrysalis and dry the wings. I want to take a deep breath. I'm like a grasshopper, and I'm ready to jump out to the grass and the sun.

Therapist: What happened to the legs due to movement?

Victor: They rock the world and rip water. If you do not download, then everything will stop.

Therapist: What about the grasshopper? Breathing?

Victor: Everything suddenly curled into a cloud, like candy floss. The whole world has curled up in a cloud, it is in the chest - it is dark there.

Therapist: What is there, in a folded state?

Victor: There’s a well, some kind of global well, I sink into it after the firefly, it leads me down ... I reached the bottom - there are embryos with bubbles, they rise up with bubbles, and I - one of these bubbles - began to fly up into air. I see the light of the sun from above.

Therapist: To find out what the sun is, did you have to plunge to the bottom of the well?

What was there, why were you going down?

Victor: The word comes - the soul. I connected with her, she was at the bottom of the well, I rise with her. Feels bright parental care. It was as if I entered the world with this.

Therapist: What about the part you got?

Victor: I merged with her, she is in my chest, where there was darkness. We are one with her, she has dissolved. Joy and completeness. Everything is flooded with light.

Therapist: Who are you?

Victor: I am already I, and I am inside myself. Everything is connected.

Sergey: Stable condition, nice, I want to take care.

Victor: Now I feel like a swaddled baby in a cradle. I grow ... Now I stand at the door, there is light, I am at the start and ready to go.

The birth process is taking place and Victor's keywords are light and joy.

Conclusion: For Sergey, the opportunity to show feelings, to accept a child - a boy, was important, the hope that it will be so. In conclusion, he said: “All the experiences were important - this is a new vision of life, relationships can be built from this, and the interaction in the group helped to do this. And the main thing was respect for each other. Life turned out to be much richer and more complicated than I could have imagined. It was necessary to make some efforts to learn something more than general ideas, just to experience something more. I found a great desire in myself to take care of someone, and the responsibility doesn’t scare me, because it carries something that I have not met before, but it seems I have always looked in life, maybe this is about the spiritual relationship of souls. The sessions that I observed during the passage of the ritual also applied to me in many ways, this is like a store of knowledge for the future, and I am very grateful to everyone for my new birth.

Six months later, Sergei married, a year and a half later they had a boy, and another four years later a girl was born.

EXAMPLE 2

Difficulties with childbirth - Marina

Work with loss (depression) - Tatyana

2002 year

Patient Marina, 35 years old, married. He works as an administrator in a medical center. Married 10 years, during this period there has never been a pregnancy. Diagnosis: obstruction of both tubes, the uterus is in good condition. According to doctors, a natural pregnancy is not possible. The patient was motivated by a personality-oriented therapy as preparation for the next PPI (artificial insemination).

The first rational therapy session (individual)

As a result of the session, it turned out that the patient a year ago did an ICE, the diagnosis: non-implantation of the fetus. The doctor insisted on urgent repetition of PPI. There was a difficult way out of anesthesia after PPI, as the patient said: “As if she could not return. And when she came out, she saw only her clothes in the mirror. ” Due to the inability to have a baby, she tried to get pregnant from a variety of men, pregnancy did not occur.

During the session, the patient became convinced that the reason for the inability to conceive was in her. And that the secondary PPI will not bring results until it is ready. The patient was consciously motivated by a personality-oriented therapy - to deal with the psychological aspects of the inability to become pregnant.

The second session (group work)

Marina: When there was an acquaintance in the group and everyone was talking about the request, it was a resource for me that I learned about many aspects of the method and the possibilities to understand many of the most difficult situations.

During the session, the body wanted to swing with one amplitude and rhythm, and I took it as my limitations of my views on the world. After that, the body became softer and could swing with different amplitudes.

My internal resources: physical strength in my hands, speed. External: husband, mother and father, nature, art.

Marina: After doing bodily practice with other people, I felt that when doing the movements it’s hard enough to join another person, as if something is closed. It was difficult to choose the amplitude and the right rhythm when swinging another person. Analyzing the "closeness", formulated a request for a session. The therapist helped formulate a broader request.

The question before the session is in the group: what is closed and what can be opened in order to accept another person and a child too.

When wiggling with a large amplitude, there was a feeling of pressure over the entire surface of the body, as if something was pressing to the ground, like a stone. The genital area is frozen, insensitive. When asked by the therapist what the stone does, it seems to be pressing against the ground, giving a complete connection with it. On the one hand, it gives protection, and on the other, it does not allow anything, including a child, to come, because it is completely closed, as if everything “is being rejected”.

When asked when this “stone" appeared, the pressure increased. The patient recalled how she went to the healer’s grandmother in the village on the issue of pregnancy before IKO. The healer worked with her and her husband and at the end of the work gave them a stone - ordinary gray pebbles, and said that the stone would protect their family. After a trip on the way, her husband became ill, and he threw a stone. Then he had an accident and nearly died. She constantly carried a stone in her purse.

To the question, “how to help?”, Came the image of water, which transferred it from a static position of being pressed down to the earth, to the fluid. Alternating images arose: she was on water, she was in water, water was inside her. I remembered the age of 5 years, when I was happy to bathe and enjoy.

Patient Awareness: Perhaps the positive point associated with the stone is that it provided a connection to the ground. She connected this with stability, but also with stagnation in work. But at the same time, the protection that was received protected from everything, and from the child too, from other interactions and development paths.

Work with masks

Marina: the first mask was like a knight’s armor, from under which fire was blazing. These are my fears and protection from the world.

The second mask is an egg with a comb; it contained a new life and sexuality. For a moment, I was inside this lack of form, but it wasn’t scary, because in the middle there was light - like a yolk-germ. It was very encouraging for me. I realized that the first mask is like protection to what is being born, to me or my motherhood. It is still ripening, but is ready for birth. The hands supporting the egg were important, as if I had to bear it myself, to do something for the birth of the child — the hands were human, female.

Communicating in a group and performing a massage, I realized that it was difficult for me to be with the feelings of others, the communication was somehow incomplete, and communication was interrupted during the dialogue. Twice I was talked about this in feedback. When during the lectures they talked about the Russian tradition of giving birth and expectation of a child, the question came to the session: what will help my child come?

The body was lighter, there was no depression, but it remained as if motionless, limited. When making small vibrational movements, an image of water appeared, now it filled the whole body: the uterus, tubes, ovaries. The patient associated this with a violation of some kind of connection. Water brought mobility, as if establishing some invisible connections. This was accompanied by pleasant sensations, of the movement and passage of life through it, the space of the body was felt without borders, some invisible pleasant atmosphere of softness, sincerity. A feeling of liberation came, she felt like a woman, sexual arousal appeared, the memory of a second mask.

After the session, there was a feeling that the stone should be thrown into the water, be sure - the current one.

Awareness: There is some kind of disturbance in the connections, and, as a result, static. Water created this mobility as the continuity of the flow of life, the coherence of everything that has no boundaries. The feeling of a woman gave confidence in the possibility of natural conception.

The patient realized that before the first PPI she needed training.

The motivation for the workshop “Secrets of Birth” was a natural conception and birth.

Partner at the seminar "Secrets of Birth" at Marina - a woman of 40 years old - Alla. She is a medical psychologist, has a 17-year-old daughter, six years ago, survived the tragic death of her husband. For a long time I could not get out of mourning. The motivation for completing the course is associated with the completion of the old period, the period of mourning, and the beginning of a new stage in life. On the first and second day, Marina and Alla accidentally fall into the same pairs.

Alla and Victor are married for six months. The joint participation of people in kinship in a similar ritual is an indicator of trust and safety that the therapist creates in the group process and which supports the method due to its structure and components, among which nonviolence, acceptance, integrity at all stages and cycles occupy an important place . Alla and Victor went through this ritual together, as they were consciously interested in building a new relationship, and this is a manifestation of responsibility and adult position on their part. As will be seen later from the sessions, both had to “go down” into the darkness in order to achieve integration. Therefore, we can say that the conflict, if there is one, although it manifests itself emotionally in different ways, most often has the same roots in partnerships.

Alla (fragments of two sessions of the group)

Session One

After the death of my husband, my life plunged into darkness. It was an unexpected and tragic death. On this day, I broke our agreement, which became almost a ritual: after work, we parked cars and went home together. I was tired, called him and returned that day alone. Approaching the porch, I heard a shot.

After what happened, I very clearly felt that most of the life that my husband filled out died with him. The guilt that tormented me for six years prevented me from living, building a new life, and I took a step to look into my present world.

During a therapeutic session, I find myself deep underground. The place is lit by an underground FIRE. I understand - this is the kingdom of the Dead. I feel that I can’t move my legs, I can’t feel them as if I was petrified, or a part of my soul was petrified.

I know that I came here of my own free will. And I can stay here if I want. And ... if they don’t save me from guilty feelings, because my daughter’s words still reprimand inside: “Mom, you have one soul, you can’t love anyone else except your dad.”

And I feel that I am still connected with my husband in this world, and I ask him to let me go and give back the part of my soul that remained with him.

A thawed window appears above me in the thickness of the ice, and light flows from there. Water spills over my body, and I see a big fabulous bird. She brought living water - Phoenix, flashed through her head. The body began to come to life. In the rays of light appeared an eye from which radiance emanates. There was joy, gratitude and a desire to create.

And I suddenly understand that no one is holding me there, except for my own unwillingness to accept life in all its manifestations and misunderstanding that life and death are a continuous process. And I feel that life is ready to accept me, you just have to reach for the light and be born again so that this new life is born in me.

We find such states of “fossil”, “chained” in mythology, prayers, shamanistic practices, so the patient compares his mental state of “fossil” with being in the kingdom of the Dead. Unfortunately, by now the meaning of the ritual of lifting “mourning” has been lost. According to the observations of the authors, it is of great importance for human health, both mental and physical, since it completes the period of mourning.

Second session

Work with support, with the ground.

During the massage, when one of the band members put his palms under my feet, I felt that my legs began to grow, turning into a thin, flexible stalk that grows up and sways in the wind. I reach out, getting closer to the sky. I feel joy from freedom of movement, suddenly fear came. I almost do not feel the earth, it does not hold me. The roots are weak, as if dried, and the wind can tear me from the ground. I need stability, support.

And when he asked how I can become more stable, I felt that I needed to take a step to the side. And now I immediately begin to feel more confident. Heaviness appears in the legs. Earth fills me with confidence and energy. Legs grow into the ground, a feeling of firmness and stability appears, and light appears from above. He fills me through my left hand and eyes. With it, heat and energy come into the body. States that I am the Universe!

Awareness: This is a very important session for me. My search for harmony and unity with the world. The body tells me what was missing in my life. Heavenly light appeared when I felt my earth. To develop, to have inspiration, you need not only freedom, but also a sense of flight - you need roots, history, traditions, the religion of your people, your own family and ancestors. It was important for me that the member of the group with whom I worked was associated with traditions.

Internal resources: endurance, concentration, concentration. External: began to draw after the death of her husband, books, art, cinema, animals.

Workshop "Secrets of Birth"

Marina: A ritual in the family: no matter what happens, light candles every evening and have dinner together. This ritual is from parents. Parental ritual is a feast. Since father is a sailor, friends often come. Memories of the rituals gave the strength of a community of people, some kind of connection and support, the separation of the pleasant and the unpleasant.

Alla: Parental ritual is a collection of flowers and mushrooms, unity with nature. The ritual from the grandmother is the veneration of the ancestors, the church. Speaking in the top three, I realized that it was as if in childhood I had been made clear that death is for this world, that there is a connection between all the living and the dead, that death is part of life.

Marina’s request on the first day is to understand what is the disruption of communications, to help her baby come, on the second - to feel what she will need if she is pregnant.

Marina: pregnancy, childbirth, according to her mother, were normal, they were waiting for me, they loved me very much in childhood, there was complete freedom.

Alla's request on the first day - relations with her daughter are important when creating a new relationship with a man. The second is the way out of the crisis, the state of depression into a new relationship. The birth was without pathology. In life, she was loved by her parents, traveled a lot, loved nature.

After 3 stages, Marina and Alla go into the space called the “Source”, the rest sit opposite and listen to what happened before.

Marina: Even when I was at the Source, I felt a light, carefree state of mind. I am like a playful creature, like an elf. And when the words were heard that God breathed a soul into a person and asked to feel the connection with the earth, I turned my head there and saw that the channel through which children should come to this family is absolutely dark, the family is in sorrow, and this channel tied to a knot.

Therapist: And how was the birth in your family?

Marina: Mom got pregnant 8 times, and there were miscarriages in front of me. It was believed that the reason was in the pope, because he was irradiated.

Therapist: How did you cross the border, connect these realities?

Marina: There was a feeling that I had to go, to build this connection with the earth. I chose the "heart" with the number and rang the bell. And when I was moving towards the earth, to my mother, as if in a stream of water, as in a session, I saw how the knot was untied and the canal brightened, and these are my future parents - and everything was bathed in such light ... I had a feeling that I do this not only for myself.

Alla: There was excitement when they talked about the earth and that the earth is accepting a new life and is nurturing. When someone sat down beside me, I gently hugged - MY. And when I heard that now we can change something, and not do as in life, I remembered that when I was pregnant, I spent little time on my baby, so I tried to give Marina warmth and affection. I wanted to coexist and make the child feel that he is loved and expected here. And this is not an accidental spontaneous process, not just a combination of circumstances. And when in the early stages it was necessary to feel each other's heartbeat, I could not distinguish where my heart is and where Marina’s heart is. It seems to me that two hearts were beating in unison. And in the end, when it came time to disconnect, so that she was born, there was also a feeling that everything was fine, the right rhythm of wiggle, and as if now the right rhythm of life was set. There were moments of regret that this was ending. But I did not want violence against the child, so that it was really his decision to be born and disconnect from me.

The therapist covers with a scarf and suggests starting the general rhythm of swaying and listening to the sensations.

Marina: The feeling of darkness and excitement from it. As if there is no direction, as in that channel everything is twisted, there is no way out. Fear arises, but from swaying it gradually decreases. We are spinning in a dark ball.

Therapist: And what does Alla feel?

Alla: Also excitement. But now something is changing. There is a feeling that now some woman is behind me, as if there is someone's presence, this is somehow unusual, because I know - behind me there is a wall.

Marina: I feel it too. The image of a maternal grandmother comes. Yes, this is a grandmother!

Therapist: What is important is that there is a grandmother?

Marina: I feel my kind, the strengthening of the birth line. There is a force behind it, a wall that expands exponentially. It is important that there is a link to a link, and the connection is not broken, we are like dominoes in a box. Our integrity by gender is restored, and chaos passes, as if a line is being built, this is like a new way.

Therapist: And what's ahead, Alla?

Alla: In front of me in the distance I see my daughter. I understand that our female blood is very important for her, not just my dad. And the feeling that the generic female is transmitted to the girl.

Marina: There was concern and excitement not only about myself, but also about the future, about the whole generation. And now I want to start the movement, as if to continue something generic, without fear.

She calmly went through the channel, and the keywords were: Earth, motherhood, gender, continuation of life.

Marina - “mother, earth”; Alla is the "baby."

The therapist invites two to the space where the cosmogonic myth “Source” unfolded, asks to tell about the main experiences, the rest of the group are opposite on the border of spaces.

Alla: There was a feeling that I was an asterisk and constantly released rays. And when the beam was highlighted, I realized that the transition was unpleasant, but it was clear that they were waiting for me. And when she walked, it was cold, anxious, when she crossed the border. In real life, my mother did not want my birth, and it was my father's desire. Therefore, I felt at the seminar in the fetal position that I did not have enough warmth, human warmth, although my mother hugged me. "Mom" was very worried, she was even shaking. This is the excitement for the future. It looks like my real mother and me in relation to her daughter, especially after the death of her husband.

Marina: I was very worried.

The therapist covers them with a scarf and asks to start wiggling, music sounds.

Alla: Very strong anxiety in the heart and in the soul. There is a lump in the throat. This is fear, I want to curl up in a ball, like an embryo. Feeling of loneliness.

Therapist: What does loneliness teach?

Alla: It’s like letting you know yourself from the inside.

Therapist: And what does mom feel?

Marina: I feel sorrow, this is pain. It hurts to feel in your child and it is very hard for me. (Marina is crying). I want to protect him, hug him, I want to say that I love him.

Alla: It is important to speak, not just to feel. Tears come to my eyes. Inside me it has become brighter. Some part of me said that there was not enough love.

Marina: I cry, I don’t know how to learn to love. I myself need love. It's true.

Therapist: How are you feeling right now, Alla?

Alla: It became easier because my mother told me the truth. Understanding of something global comes.

Marina: The tension subsides. I want to help a child, but I don’t know exactly what I can do.

Therapist: Tell me what you need, Alla.

Alla: I want my mom to hug me from above and cover me with herself. I’m like in a mink, security, like in the womb. I look like a fox. I have a red tail, my real mother is bright red! This is my connection with my mom.

Therapist: In many traditions, the fox helps to see a lot that others do not see, and helps in family relationships. Perhaps she came to help you.

Marina: Feeling of peace that I can protect my child.

Alla: I want to snuggle up and feel full contact, the spine, the tailbone. I can afford it.

Therapist: Take a comfortable position.

Alla: I want to cuddle harder, as if I feel support and warmth. I need to feel it through other people.

Therapist: How do you feel, Marina?

Marina: Yesterday the clan gave me enough heat, and I can find support. My child is becoming more confident, active, now she is rocking me.

Alla: Yesterday I got the feeling that we are one in one invested and that gives security, protection is behind me. Reliance on gender gives confidence. This is the continuity of life as opposed to death. Mom - I - and daughter in front of me. She leads me, this has a deep meaning and harmony, I can rely on her. The horizon opens before me. I have where to go, I have to cross the border connecting me with the death of my husband. I can move, taking what is necessary, a feeling of support, communication, warmth and protection. “Mom” helped me get this for the future.

Marina: I feel the wisdom of a child. This is from above.

Therapist: What feelings do you have?

Alla: Tears, warmth and tenderness, not enchanting, but a very conscious understanding.

Marina: This is happiness through a deep understanding of earthly truths, and the belief that I can give the child what he needs.

As Alla said at the end of the seminar, it was important for her to feel the connection of generations, the continuity of time, and through this - the strength, the connection with her daughter, and to understand that it is sincerity that helps to establish warm relations with each other, and this is a resource in their relationship with Victor . What was important was the feeling that this was not the end, but the beginning of new horizons in life, the bright period. For Marina - what she can bear and give protection to her child.

Pregnancy at Marina came right after the seminar, she gave birth to a girl. Victor and Alla have created a new family, and now they are together.

The workshop "Secrets of Birth" reveals a violation of the transcendental function in Marina, which links two realities - the earthly and the source or bodily and spiritual (K. Jung. Synchronism. M., 1997, p. 18-20). It is restored through a sense of connection with other generations, through a sense of continuity. In the second case of Alla, the spiritual qualities of sincerity, warmth and love necessary for the child to develop are revealed. In the first cycle, depression manifests itself as dissociation, and integration occurs with the acceptance of life, responsibility for it.

The work confirms the ideas of transgenerative family psychotherapy, including the consideration of family problems as a result of intergenerational interaction. (J. Brown, D. Christensen. Theory and practice of family psychotherapy. St. Petersburg, 2001, p. 172), as well as the ideas of family therapy of Hellenberg.

Examples of the application of the method for adoption.

Below are examples of work related to adoption. However, a similar practice was used for families in which childbirth was complicated or there were difficulties with the development of the child. This work was complemented by art therapy practice to complete the ritual. Observations show that there is a "newborn memory." The pathology of birth has always been reflected in the drawings. In that case, for example, when the mother hides that the father is not her own, the child always draws the true situation. This is confirmed by studies on the early memory of newborns by David Chamberlain ("The Mind of Your Newborn Baby", M., 2004, pp. 100-103, 198-202).

EXAMPLE 1

Child 4 years old. Mother guardianship was issued when the child was 2 years old.

The program was intended for families in which there were difficulties in relations between spouses and difficulties with children. The authors of the application were the presenters of the international program “Family 2000”. The program involved families from different countries: Russia, the former CIS countries, England, Germany. It was a ten-day program that took place in one of the northern villages, and included bodily practice, art therapy, the "Secrets of Birth" seminar, work with children, joint seminars for parents and children.

At the end of the program, the mother of a four-year-old child approached us with a request to help her tell the boy that he was not her family. She is a guardian for two years. When asked why this should be done now, she replied that many people know about this and she does not want the boy (Andrei) to know about this from others. She was also worried about periodic outbreaks of child anger, ambivalence of behavior and lack of independence.

Before this conversation, we did not know that he was not a native child. However, they noticed that despite his age, he almost never gets away with it. The atmosphere of trust that developed at the seminar allowed Mom to open up. The impetus for the conversation was the seminar "Secrets of birth." For Inna at the seminar, it was important to feel what her son, his state of mind could worry about.

At the workshop "Secrets of Birth":

She felt the joy of being able to come to our land.

When she pulled out the number, her parents were, in her opinion, the best of all the participants who were there, and she decided that she was unlikely to survive what her child was going through. However, when the process of experiencing the biographical level began, she realized that there was not enough heat, her parents seemed to share something among themselves. She felt loneliness and uncertainty. This probably was similar to the circumstances that were in the life of the boy. For two years he was in an orphanage, his mother did not visit him, but did not refuse, hoping that his father would acknowledge paternity.

For her, the feeling of unwillingness to be born, to separate from her parents was important. This also turned out to be similar to the behavior of Andrei, who was with her all the time, and this allowed her to accept his feelings.

And therefore, when she was a mother in the second half of the seminar, it was important for her to give the child warmth, to accept all the feelings that he might experience.

Before the ritual, we discussed with mother all the details, realizing that a lot could be unforeseen. They performed therapeutic work to understand how she can initiate her son into this “family secret”.

Adults (eight people) were invited to conduct the ritual, which, in our opinion, could provide support to mother and child. The room was festively decorated, because Mom said that the child loves the holidays. This atmosphere spoke of the beautiful beginning of something new. Everyone was thrilled. Mom was sitting a little to the side. The therapist invited the boy and placed him on one side, and the mother on the other from herself. The therapist said that today is a very important day, and my mother wants to say something important for him, and also asked if he wants to listen. He replied - YES.

Inna said that she loved him very much, but it so happened in their life that she was not immediately his mother, and before that he had another mother. There was a long pause.

Suddenly, Andrei asked: In honor of whom was they named me?

Pause, Inna said: In honor of St. Andrew.

Then she gently said that she was very well with him, and it was her choice to be with him, she loves him. And if he also agrees, then she would like him to make a choice and come to her himself, so that they become dearer and closer. To do this, she moved to the other end of the room, and he had to come to her. This transition in this case was made in the form of a bench with a painted rainbow. He alone walked along it and approached his mother, sat on her knees, her back pressed against her chest, she hugged him. The therapist covered them with a scarf, and mom began to wiggle.

The therapist felt how the atmosphere was changing, and for her it was connected with the onset of trance, then asked what the boy was feeling. He replied: I am diminishing.

Then she asked again - he replied that he had become even smaller, and after a while said that he had turned into a point.

This symbolic designation meant a limiting state, allowing you to return to the source, to get the missing, necessary for the family. Mom shook it, it lasted 10 minutes. Then the child said that he was a little bit, and after a while said that it was growing. This process lasted another ten minutes. Then the therapist took off her handkerchief. And the adults built a canal. But the child hesitated, was afraid that he would be crushed. The therapist said that this was just a transition, and when he got out, he began to fight with men, clearly showing his strength and belonging to the male sex, showing identification through actions.

The children did not know what was happening, but the whole atmosphere was so reminiscent of a birthday that when he left the house, the children began to congratulate him.

The very next day, changes occurred - the child did not sit in his mother’s arms, but played with other children.

Changes affected intellectual development, after six months he began to read, my mother spent almost no effort on reading instruction.

As my mother said, after a while this practice (ritual) helped to put a lot in their place. There is no tormenting disagreement. And she can say that he was really born, this is her spiritual and blood son, born from a drop of light.

EXAMPLE 2

The child is 1.5 years old.

2003 year

The child was taken from an orphanage at the age of 8 months.

Both father (Oleg - 36 years old) and mother (Natasha - 40 years old) went through two cycles, including the workshop "Secrets of Birth." For Oleg and Natasha it was the second marriage, there were no children in previous marriages. Natasha's father was also an adopted child. The initiator of adoption in their family was Oleg, Natasha doubted for a long time. By profession, she is a biologist, and her fear was associated with a possible adverse heredity of the child.

Therefore, Natasha came to the course of psychotherapy initially. The first cycle gave a great resource, because it revealed the extraordinary capabilities of the human body. He showed how significant the changes that can be with people can be. He gave several techniques that you can use. At the “Secrets of Birth” seminar, for her in the role of a child, it was important to feel her feet as clay soil, the soil from which they mold, create. When passing through the channel, she noticed that she was stuck on 2/3 of the channel. It’s like in life - complexity and stopping, and it was important to complete, go through to the end. When she was in the role of “mother,” her older brother turned out to be her child, who was also at the seminar and who was always the authority of her “parental family” for her. What was important was the feeling of letting him go as the “authority” of the parental family. It came to understand that you need to build your family and take part of the energy from the parent, make important decisions yourself.

Husband and wife attended this seminar at different times. Oleg came to a course of psychotherapy when the decision was made, and they knew whom they would adopt.

It was important for father and mother that it was a boy (man) who came to Oleg at the seminar. It was like confirmation that their choice was right.

Short version:

For Oleg in this process, it was important to experience loneliness and longing, to receive a resource through a connection with the roots.

A small fragment of intentional dialogue.

Oleg: This is longing, it does not let go anywhere, it penetrates everywhere, it is in me, behind me, everywhere. It is like all penetrating substance.

Therapist: Longing for what, why?

Oleg: Sadness, regret, global loneliness. Such loneliness that can not even be expressed. It doesn’t look like someone is leaving, and you are left alone, no - that’s different.

Therapist: What does this longing do to you?

Oleg: She fetters me my strength, as in life.

Therapist: Are these any specific forces, are they somehow connected with parts of the body?

Oleg: This is everything - the desire to think, to do something.

Therapist: And what do you feel, Yuri?

Yuri: Sensations, as if I were standing on the ground and hugging a thick tree. He has no roots, or roots, and I am one, incomprehensible.

Therapist: What feelings does it make you hug this tree?

Yuri: Stability, it gives me energy, nice. It gives me strength and a sense of my presence on earth.

Oleg: Everything has changed, a feeling of very great strength, but calm, which is manifested not in active movements, but in the intention of the will.

Therapist: At what point did the transformation take place. You said that melancholy fetters, and then strength.

Oleg: It was a strange sensation when Oleg talked about a tree, as if he were talking about me.

It was important for Oleg to go through the process of transformation, to understand that longing is not total, and there can be a breakthrough that came about through an embryonic state, an experience of the divine, the source of life, support and help from another person. An interesting fact is the synchronism at such seminars; Oleg was the "parent" of Yuri, who also had no children. Both were left at an early age by fathers. Oleg’s mother was tough enough, and at 16 he ran away from home, leaving for Leningrad.

Before carrying out the psychotherapeutic process of "adoption", work with parents took place to choose a day and choose the right words. The therapist got acquainted with the child, and the game form proposed to him made it possible to establish a relationship of trust.

This process was carried out immediately after the New Year, so the atmosphere was festive, it was easy for the therapist to say about something new, the onset of the new.

The child was on one side from the therapist, the parents on the other. The therapist said that the parents wanted to say something very important to them.

Mom and father talked about adoption. The therapist established the intentional conversation “child - parent”, relying on the symbolic behavior of the child, taking into account his need. The child’s speech was not organized by this time. When the therapist offered to go to them, the child, with his symbolic behavior, said that he refused. He sat next to the therapist, opened a book, showing pictures, and did not want to budge. By his behavior, he showed the lack of the necessary connection.

The therapist knew that the adoption initiative belonged to the pope. Since work with the child’s mother was carried out before, it was known about her doubts and fears, it could be assumed that this is only a conscious decision and there are no deep feelings yet.

The therapist invited mom to talk about her feelings. And she said she was trying, but so far it’s hard. But she really wants it to be a love relationship. The child listened carefully. There was a pause.

After that, unexpectedly for all, the child went to his parents. Together they moved to another space, and the therapist covered them with a scarf. Prior to this, the child never allowed himself to be covered with his head. For the therapist, this was a sign of trust on the part of the child. They rocked him for a while. There was a feeling of deep trance and unity. Then the therapist took off her handkerchief. And the child came out from under him with the help of his father, pushing off from his parents. There was a feeling that he was involved in something important. Parents gave presents. Everything ended with a holiday.

Interesting observations of this case are changes regarding physiological manifestations. For example, over time, a child’s specific hair color changes and becomes like his father’s. On the back, in the lumbar region, a large pigmented spot (30 mm in size) appeared, like that of my mother. The child was very gifted musically. In the literature on adoption rituals, we can find it as “blood” adoption, it is possible that the ritual can make changes at the deepest physiological level.

Based on the above theoretical arguments and examples from the practice of applicants, the method can be attributed to methods of transpersonal psychology.

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1. A method of restoring psychoemotional balance, including group psychotherapy, characterized in that psychotherapy is carried out in two cycles: during the first cycle, art therapy and body therapy are used with vibration massage, aimed at identifying and focusing intrapersonal problems; during the second cycle, the patient’s relationship with his social environment is corrected by the method of dramotherapy, which consists of three stages: at the first stage, the therapist transfers the patient from ordinary to dramatic reality, talking about the essence of the rituals of transition from one life cycle to another, then the therapist helps the patient evaluate the organization the structure of the external and internal space during the patient’s childhood by analyzing childhood conditions, cultural traditions of the family, family myths and rituals; at the second stage, they carry out the “rebirth” ritual, which consists in the fact that patients are divided into “children” and “parents” and form parent-child pairs, then they perform rhythmic swaying and enter a state of liminality against the background of the story of the creation myth, development an embryo in the womb; then, with the help of a therapist, they carry out an intentional dialogue between the members of the couple, actualizing internal conflicts; at the end of the intentional dialogue, the participant acting as a child crawls through the corridor formed by other couples, and the participant acting as a parent meets him at the exit from the corridor, then the participants change roles; at the third stage, they make the transition to everyday reality and develop a positive coping strategy. 2. A way to restore psycho-emotional balance, including group psychotherapy, characterized in that in the case of adoption of a child, psychotherapy is carried out in three cycles: during the first cycle, parents conduct art therapy and body therapy using vibration massage, aimed at identifying and focusing intrapersonal Problems; during the second cycle, correlations between the patients-parents and the social environment are carried out using the dramatic therapy method, which consists of three stages: at the first stage, the therapist transfers the patient from ordinary to dramatic reality, talking about the essence of the rituals of transition from one life cycle to another, then the therapist helps the patient evaluate the organization of the structure of the external and internal space during the patient’s childhood by analyzing childhood conditions, cultural traditions of the family, family myths and rituals; at the second stage, they carry out the “rebirth” ritual, which consists in the fact that patients are divided into “children” and “parents” and form parent-child pairs, then they perform rhythmic swaying and enter a state of liminality against the background of the story of the creation myth, development an embryo in the womb; then, with the help of a therapist, they carry out an intentional dialogue between the members of the couple, actualizing internal conflicts; at the end of the intentional dialogue, the participant acting as a child crawls through the corridor formed by other couples, and the participant acting as a parent meets him at the exit from the corridor, then the participants change roles; at the third stage, they make the transition to everyday reality and develop a positive coping strategy; during the third cycle, parents, together with the adopted child, undergo the second cycle of psychotherapy.